Advice for Happy Holiday Dynamics

For most people, getting together with family and friends is the biggest joy of the holiday season.  But after a few years of small and low-key pandemic holiday celebrations, you can be forgiven if you need to brush up on your social skills and etiquette. We asked our counselors to share their best tips for surviving the holiday season with minimal stress. Here’s what they said:

  • Keep realistic expectations. Things won’t always go according to plan. Embrace imperfection. Relax.
  • Put down the devices and turn off the electronics. Make a “no-electronics” rule at special meals and gatherings.
  • Keep a sense of humor. Laughter, humor, and a positive attitude are contagious and can cover a multitude of sins.
  • Be a giver, not a taker. Listen more than you talk. Give more than you get. Kindness and generosity build happiness and reduce stress.
  • Be flexible. Traditions change as families expand. Roll with the changes and remember that it’s about people and sharing, not rituals.
  • Avoid touchy topics. Steer clear of topics that lead to arguments. If you can’t do that, then practice tolerance.  Give people the benefit of the doubt.
  • Forgive and forget. The holidays are the perfect time to free yourself from the burden of old grudges. Forgiveness is liberating and a gift to both the forgiver and the forgiven.

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      3. Center the QR code you want to scan on the screen
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      Holiday Survival Toolkit

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      2022 Holiday Survival Toolkit

      December Dates

      We’re Here if You Need us Over the Holidays!

      Holidays can be stressful! If it all gets to be too much, your EAP is here to help 24-7-365. Just give us a call at 1-800-252-4555.

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            then choose ‘Comprehensive 
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      5. In the Search bar at the top of the 
           screen, type the course code or 
           search for a topic.

      6. Click the course icon, and click the 
      Play’ or ‘Start’ button to begin.

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